Resources

I read a lot and attempt to follow the work of certain authors.

Here is a list of some of the books that have influenced my work, challenged my thinking, and in some cases honed my theory. I attempt to read widely and do not necessarily agree with everything in each of the books listed below.

    • Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel

    • The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan Allender

    • Healing The Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. Allender

    • This Too Shall Last: Finding Grace When Suffering Lingers by K.J. Ramsey

    • Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame by Patricia A. DeYoung

    • The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, MD

    • Trauma and Grace: Theology in a Ruptured World by Serene Jones

    • The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris

    • The Wake of 9-11: The Psychology of Terror by Thomas A. Pyszczynski

    • The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan Allender

    • Healing The Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. Allender

    • God Loves Sex: An Honest Conversation about Sexual Desire and Holiness by Dan B. Allender and Tremper Longman

    • How Not To Be An *ss by Andrew J. Bauman

    • The Psychology of Porn by Andrew J. Bauman

    • The Sexually Healthy Man: Essays on Spirituality, Sexuality, & Restoration by Andrew J. Bauman

    • Theology of the Womb: Knowing God Through the Body of a Woman by Christy Bauman

    • Surfing for God: Discovering the Divine Desire Beneath Sexual Struggle by Michael John Cusick

    • The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended by Sheila Wray Gregoire

    • The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing Wholeness and Connection Through Embodied Living by Hillary McBride, PhD.

    • Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Hillary L. McBride

    • Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing by Jay Stringer

    • Here All Dwell Free: Stories to Heal the Wounded Feminine by Gertrud Mueller Nelson

    • In the Shelter: Finding a Home in the World by Padraig O Tuama

    • Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

    • The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

    • Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel

    • Healing The Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. Allender

    • The Healing Path: How the Hurts in Your Past Can Lead You to a More Abundant Life by Dan Allender

    • Bold Love by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III

    • Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame by Patricia A. DeYoung

    • Love’s Executioner and Other Tales of Psychotherapy by Irvin D. Yalom

    • Internal Family Systems Therapy by Richard C. Schwartz

    • Deep Survival: Who Lives, Who Dies, and Why by Laurence Gonzales

    • This Here Flesh by Cole Arthur Riley

    • My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Bodies and Hearts by Resmaa Menakem

    • We Sang a Dirge: Poems, Laments, and Other Things that Matter to God by Lo Alaman

    • Braiding Sweetgrass: Indigenous Wisdom, Scientific Knowledge, and the Teaching of Plants by Robin Wall Kimmerer

    • Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates

    • I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings by Maya Angelou

    • How to be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

    • All You Can Ever Know by Nicole Chung

    • White Awake: An Honest Look at What It Means to Be White by Daniel Hill

    • Just Mercy: A Story of Justice and Redemption by Bryan Stevenson

    • Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties & How to Heal the Conflict by Joshua Coleman, PhD.

    • The Middle Passage: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife by James Hollis

    • The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel Siegel

    • Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life by Richard Rohr

    • The Critical Journey: Stages in the Life of Faith by Janet Hagberg and Robert Guelich

    • Bold Love by Dan Allender & Tremper Longman III

    • God Loves Sex: An Honest Conversation about Sexual Desire and Holiness by Dan B. Allender and Tremper Longman

    • The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman

    • 10 Principles for Doing Effective Couples Therapy by Julie Schwartz Gottman

    • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson

    • It’s Not Always Depression by Hilary Jacobs Hendel

    • The Wisdom of Anxiety: How Worry and Intrusive Thoughts are Gifts to Help You Heal by Sheryl Paul

    • The Gift of Being Yourself: The Sacred Call to Self-Discovery by David Brenner

    • Trauma and Grace: Theology in a Ruptured World by Serene Jones

    • Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson

    • Jesus and John Wayne: How White Evangelicals Corrupted a Faith and Fractured a Nation by Kristin Kobes Du Mez

    • The Critical Journey: Stages in the Life of Faith by Janet Hagberg and Robert Guelich

    • To Be Told: Know Your Story, Shape Your Future by Dan B. Allender

    • Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Dan Allender & Cathy Loerzel

    • Make Sense of Your Story by Adam Young